It is never easy to take an exit from your long-cherished relationships. It gets even worse when it is the separation from your partner whom you once called your ‘everything’.
Getting a divorce is probably the hardest decision an individual might have to make in life. There is an emotional turmoil within oneself and the stress of protecting the children from the outcomes thereof.
But, when you consider the pain, sadness, and abuse that is beyond what you can endure, divorce seems to be the answer. Even the family and friends often encourage this as they operate under the assumption that the quicker you can get out of this anguish, the better it is for your life ahead.
Thus, it is no wonder why most couples begin the process unprepared and rush to leave the marriage without even evaluating their feelings. This not only causes marriages to end prematurely and divorces to turn into competitive games, but also getting tangled up in lengthy court cases.
Obtaining a divorce is a critical decision. Moreover, there is nothing known as a ‘quick divorce’. It is a legal process in itself that can often take years to resolve and leave you with scars that last a lifetime.
Here are five questions you need to ask yourself before you make your final move:
- Why do I need a divorce?
Before opting for divorce, it is important that you sit alone for some time and think about what has gotten you to the point where you see divorce as the only choice. Is it that you both don’t feel connected anymore? Is it family conflicts? Is your partner cheating on you?
- Do I have any other options?
Other than divorce, living apart is a practical arrangement that can work successfully for you and your spouse. You both can choose to live separately while still being committed to a relationship. Sometimes being apart helps you diffuse the ego conflicts and change the dynamics of your marriage.
- What has been my contribution to fix the issues?
Divorce may seem to be a fast solution to all your marital problems. However, it is essential that you take a pause and evaluate if it is the right step for you both. At times, it is the anger and impatience that makes a person hasten the decision. So, you need to self-inspect if you actually tried your best to sustain the relationship.
- How will this impact our children?
Having children obviously complicates things more. However, if you and your partner are mature enough, tackling them amidst this rough situation becomes smooth. Even if you both cannot be a happy husband and wife together, you can be happy guardians together to save their integrity.
- Do I have the required support?
Going through a divorce is a huge emotional and financial torture that might continue for months to come. But with the support of people around, it feels like you can withstand any storm. So, look around for the support systems that may include family, friends, sufficient bank balance, good psychotherapist, and experienced legal team.