Everyone will want to know the red flags because, after all, no one wants to get into a relationship they’ll just be leaving soon. We know that we should not continue dating anyone rude to waiters, controlling, clingy, etc.
We’re too caught up with the red flags, but how about the good stuff? If a person shows plenty of green flags, chances are, you’ve found the right one to keep.
Before you dive in too deep and exchange custom engagement rings, make sure they’re the right person for you, checking most of the green flags first. Here are some signs:
1. You align with one another
Alignment should be in all aspects—mentally, emotionally, and physically. You share the same values and, most preferably, want the same things in life, personally or professionally.
This makes it easier for both of you to work and grow together. What’s important to one should be important to the other so that neither of you has to feel like sacrificing so much.
Ideally, you have the same vision for the future. One’s measure of success should align with yours.
Since you resonate with one another, what makes your significant other happy makes you happy too, vice versa. You place both your needs equally, making it easier for you to compromise, juggle priorities, and collaborate.
2. You don’t need to have the same hobbies and interests
While your most fundamental principles and morals must align, you both don’t need to have the same interests and hobbies.
In fact, it’s much better that you both have differences in this aspect. When the other person still supports you, no matter how trivial or weird your interests are, that’s a good sign. They wouldn’t belittle what you love doing as a hobby nor make you feel self-conscious doing it when they’re around.
Being able to introduce one another to new hobbies and activities is a great avenue to personal development. You should both have the ability to do things both together and apart.
This is a great way to retain your identity, which is crucial for a person even when in a serious relationship.
3. You can be yourself
This means you can just be who you are when with that person. You know you can speak whatever is in your mind without being ridiculed or judged.
They may be just as excited as what makes you excited, too, so you don’t have to hold back from expressing yourself. They make you feel comfortable and happy being you.
The right partner can indeed bring the best in you. You don’t have to put an act knowing that the other person accepts everything that you are.
In fact, your significant other lessens your insecurities. For instance, you might now be more comfortable about the size of your thighs and many others. The other person doesn’t seem like wanting to change you, making you feel right about yourself and accepted.
4. You can healthily criticize, argue, or disagree with each other
It’s normal to disagree and even argue from time to time. You should both have the ability to disagree with one another without cutting off your emotional connection.
If you should argue with each other, it doesn’t have to make you feel like you’d be ending your relationship. Your significant other wouldn’t extract punishment like treating you with cold shoulders, tense silence, or pretension as if you don’t exist.
In terms of criticism, you should both know how to accept and give any in a healthy, respectful way. Your significant other should listen to any of your criticisms without canceling you.
This lets you feel challenged so you can develop a better version of yourself. Your significant other’s concerned critique should encourage you to be a better person. Just be careful about criticizing your partner since if unguarded, it can ruin the relationship.
5. You can communicate openly and be comfortable with silence
From deep topics to trivial ones, you know you can talk to your partner just about anything that you have in mind. One green flag is that you can speak to the other person without feeling judged.
You don’t play any head games with each other, such as making the other person decipher your thoughts or emotions, vice versa. If it’s the other way, then it’s definitely a red flag.
Also, as much as you’re comfortable talking about anything, you should be comfortable being silent together.
You Just Know It
You know it by the way they make you feel—valued, respected, unjudged, but not put on a pedestal. They’re done with just caring about themselves. Now, they can pour out that love to you.